A Letter To My Younger Self


Hey Lovelies! 

Welcome to my new post, today I am going to write a letter to my younger self, I really hope you enjoy it.

Dear Zoe,

Life isn’t like a fairy tale, you’ll be heartbroken at some point, you will learn not to trust many people and you will probably be judged by many but don’t worry about any of that because life is too short. Don’t let people upset you and get you down, as long as you’re happy and as long as you’re making your parents proud, who cares what anyone else thinks? You have nothing to prove to anyone, only yourself.

If you want to spend all of your money on concerts, that is totally okay. You’re not spoilt, you work extremely hard and deserve all of the treats you give yourself. Don’t listen to those who are jealous of you. 

Trusting people is hard, I know. Believing what people tell you is hard too. If someone breaks your heart, don’t dwell on it. Smile, hold your head up high and realise it is their loss, not yours. Don’t let your past ruin your future. That man you love? Yeah he loves you too, let him in, trust him and believe him when he says those three words, he isn’t your ex, he won’t hurt you. And if he does? Hold your head up princess, that tiara is falling. 

You know what? You can argue with your parents as much as you like, at the end of the day they brought you into this world, they know what is best for you. If they tell you someone is bad news? Listen to them, because parents can always tell a bad egg before you can. If they tell you you can’t go out? Listen to them, they know what people are like. It isn’t you they don’t trust, it is other people and they are well within their rights to think that. It is a horrible world we live in so listen to them, they really do know best.

Your brothers? Yeah they will annoy you, sometimes you will hate them. But after everything, guess who will always have your back? Them. They will not let anyone hurt you, do the same for them. Look out for each other, support each other and never let each other down. Being close to your siblings is rare, don’t look back in 50 years time and regret not spending more time together.

Alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and sex really isn’t all that. Trust me, you don’t need to sneak about at 13 years old to do all the things your parents tell you not to. People will think they’re clever taking drugs at a young age, but don’t do something stupid, don’t regret being young by doing something that could effect you in the future. Smoking is a dirty habit, don’t get into it. Alcohol? Yeah everybody drinks it, but don’t be stupid and get drunk so young, waking up and not remembering what happened. And sex? Yes it is a part of life that most experience, but why rush? 

Never feel pressured to do something you don’t feel you are ready for just because your friends are doing it. Focus in school and get good grades because in today’s society, grades are important to make it in almost any career. You won’t know what you want to do with your life when you’re young, you may think you do but that will change so many times before you become an adult so don’t focus all of your efforts into one thing because who knows what you will end up doing.

School is boring yes, but they are the best days of your life so don’t wish them away, enjoy every single second because trust me, once you start working you will regret ever wishing those days away.

All of those ‘friends’ you make in school? You will probably keep in touch with just a handful so be careful who you trust and who you let into your life because not everybody has your best interests in mind. Keep a couple friends who will always have your back and do not let them go. They’re rare and very precious.

If you have a crush on a singer, do not let anyone take that away from you because it could allow you to meet so many new friends and allow you to make so many new memories. Do not publish your life on social media. If you and your parents argue? Sort it out, rant to a friends, go for a walk, don’t publish online how much you hate them, because you don’t, you never will, you’re just angry.

Life is short, someone you argue with today could be gone tomorrow, don’t take that chance. Don’t be stubborn, apologise, hug it out and move on. 

You’re stronger than you think you are, you can overcome anything if you put your mind to it. The main thing is be happy. Do what you want to do, don’t let others bring you down. You’ll have bad days, so will those around you, but don’t let it turn into bad weeks or months or years. If somebody is having a bad day and they take it out on you that’s fine, shake it off and move on because everybody has bad days and you will probably take yours out on somebody else too.

A small note to end on… It doesn’t take a lot to smile at someone, who knows you could even make their day. Smile more, laugh more and enjoy your life because the last thing you want to do is regret it looking back.

Be happy, treat yourself and do what you love to do.

All the best.

Zoe

Xo

Today was a different post for sure but I feel like at 20 years old I’ve learnt quite a lot and I continue to learn every single day of my life but if I could tell my younger self anything it is in this letter. I don’t regret my past because I learnt from it and grew from it and I’m finding out a lot about myself with every mistake I make, but I like the thought of learning and being able to pass that on to younger people so this is what I would personally pass on. I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and I will see you in my next post.

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Review: The Full Monty Theatre Show

Hey Lovelies!

Today’s post is a review of The Full Monty theatre show. If you didn’t know the show is currently on tour playing shows all across the UK and this afternoon I was lucky enough to go and see the matinee show. I’ve never been to a matinee show but I always assumed not as much effort went into them however I was totally wrong. I was second row from the front in the stalls and honestly I had the best couple of hours. 

The show obviously has a lot of humour in it, which was expected but beneath all of that it targets some sensitive issues that happen to people every single day. Such as body image, homosexuality, unemployment, depression, sexual equality and court proceedings where a child is involved. It includes a lot of heartfelt sensitive issues and they are included in a careful way where nobody can be offended but you might be able to relate to what they are going through.

I think the creators, writers, producers and everybody involved did an incredible job. They included the light hearted parts and humorous parts but they also included those scenes where the sensitive issues are brought up. I think, for me, the best scene was of course the scene in the ‘job club’ where the music is playing and they start dancing in the queue. I think if that scene wasn’t included it just wouldn’t be the same. I also want to say fair play to all of the actors for stripping right down to the bare bottom. I honestly think the whole performance was incredible and I was totally wrong about the fact that matinee shows being different, they are just as good as evening shows! 

If you get the chance to see the show then I really do recommend you do. If you follow me and have been you will know I go to a lot of shows but this has to be one of the best ones. I have always said The Bodyguard is the best show I’ve seen at the theatre but this was definitely very close if not slightly better. 

All of the performers were incredible but my stand out performers were of course Gary Lucy and Chris Fountain. I’ve always had a soft spot for them, Gary since Footballers Wives and Chris since Hollyoaks so being able to see them both on stage was amazing. I have loved the performance and I think everybody should see it if you get the chance!

I hope you’ve enjoyed this review and I will see you in my next post!

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My A-Z Guide of Being a Teenager

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Hey Lovelies!

Being a teenager is pretty tricky, whether you’re 13 and only just settling into high school, 16 and leaving high school or 19, like myself, working full time or in university. However old you are and no matter what you’re doing, being a teenager is pretty tough. So here is my A-Z guided of how to survive your teenage years.

A – Always be yourself. I know it’s pretty cliche but never try to be someone else. You might not be the most popular person, but never change who you are for someone else. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are then that’s their loss.

B – Be ready for the unexpected. Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs some of which are unexpected, but be ready for them. Know that whatever happens you can bounce back one way or another.

C – Caring. Always be caring. Whether it’s towards your family, your friends or even a stranger, being a caring person costs nothing. If you see someone crying in school, ask them if they need any help, if your mom seems down, ask her if she needs to talk. 

D – Driven and determined. Stay driven always. Make yourself a goal and stick to it. Don’t give up, no matter how hard it may seem to reach, one day you’ll reach your goal because you were driven and determined to get there.

E –Enjoy every moment. Life is way too short to not enjoy it. It might not seem like it now because when my parents said it to me I laughed too, but your school years are the best years of your life. Spending every day with your friends, not worrying about paying bills and the money ins and outs, no full time work to contend with and honestly if I could, I’d love to live my school years again because they’re so much easier than now.

F –Friendships. Making friendships is a key part in anyone’s life. Remember those friends you make now are the group you’re associated with. If they misbehave you could be tarnished with the same brush and be looked down upon all because you got into a bad group. Yes, be friends with those people you like but also remember, they won’t be the people writing your references from school, they won’t be the ones paying you when you find a job. Don’t be a teachers pet, but remember teachers will see who you’re with and what you get up to, so choose a good bunch of friends who you can get on well with and have a laugh with but know where the limits are. If you choose a good group of friends, you could find yourself with friends for life.

G – Get prepared. Your teenage years are fun and you should enjoy them, however sometimes you need to prepare yourself for certain obstacles and situations. I know it’s boring, but revise for your exams, once you pass them and leave education whether it be at school, college or university level you probably won’t waste your time again on revision, but being prepared for an exam is important, don’t go in there knowing nothing, you’re not letting anyone down apart from yourself.

H – Honesty. Being honest is a key personality trait that people look for. Don’t lie to people, tell them the truth no matter what the consequence may be. Don’t tell a lie then have it on your conscience, this will probably lead to you stressing out and even not sleeping if the lie leads to other things regarding those involved. 

I – Inspire others. Inspire younger people who look up to you to enjoy themselves and succeed in life. Don’t forget somewhere in this world someone looks up to you, whether it be a sibling, a distant relative or even people in school in years below you, set a good example and strive to succeed. If you fail, get back up and try again.

J – Join in and participate. You might not like sport or be very energetic, but why not join a sports club or a dance club or even a revision class? You might meet new friends, have time out of the house and who knows, you might even enjoy it!

K – Know your worth and don’t let your standards drop. You’re worth so much more than some people will try and tell you. Know your worth and don’t let anyone treat you worse than what you deserve. You’ve been put on this planet for a purpose, know your worth, know your purpose and don’t let your standards slip, not even slightly.

L –Loyalty. Be loyal. Be loyal to your friends, your family and those important to you. The person you are now is the person people will judge you by in the future. Loyalty is a key trait that many look for including future universities and employers.

M – Make memories. Life is all about memories. Don’t waste time sitting alone, go out, make friends, enjoy yourself and don’t waste any time doing nothing. You’re young, you have energy so go out and use it before you’re in a full time job and have no time to actually do the things you want to do.

N – Never give up. Another cliche one, however it’s important to remember. Things will be hard, things will stress you out and make you want to quit, however, keep going. Be positive and persevere because sooner or later you’ll succeed and it’ll feel even sweeter knowing you were challenged but never gave up. 

O – Own up to your mistakes. If you make a mistake, own up to it. Don’t lie or try and blame it on someone else. You’ll gain a lot more respect from people if you can realise you’ve made a mistake and own up to it rather than lying to get yourself out of it. Everybody makes mistakes, we’re all human and nobody will expect you not to, so own up to it, make it right if you can and move on.

P – Plan ahead. In one respect you want to enjoy the moment you’re in, however sometimes you need to think ahead. No you probably won’t know what you want to do in 20 years time, but have some sort of idea so you can work towards it. Make a plan and even if you don’t stick to it at least you can gain experience. For example, if you plan to go to university, write down your achievements as and when they happen, so when it comes to your application you have it all there, even if you choose not to apply, at least you have your achievements for a CV for a job.

Q – Question things. Don’t sit in class not understanding something without asking questions, don’t be afraid of looking dumb, ask the questions you need to ask. The chances are if you don’t understand something then at least one other person in your class is probably in the same position.

R – Remain hopeful. Things will be tough, I won’t say they won’t, but smile and remain hopeful. One day things will work out exactly how they’re supposed to, just wait for it.

S – Say what you feel. I don’t mean tell your teachers you hate them at all, I mean if you like someone, tell them, yes they might not feel the same way, but at the same time they might and if you don’t tell them how you feel, they might never say how they feel and you could miss an opportunity to be happy.

T – Talking. I know this sounds like a silly idea, but a lot of teenagers shut themselves off from the outside world, don’t do that. Talk to your friends whenever you can. Leave your bedroom, go downstairs and talk to your family. Don’t lock yourself away, life is too short and by the time you realise that, it could be too late.

U – Understanding. If your parents say they can’t give you money to go shopping this week, be understanding. Realise that they work hard for their money but on payday probably 50% or more will have already been spent on bills to keep a roof over your head, heat in the house, running water and electricity to keep your phone charged. They love you but sometimes a little bit of understanding doesn’t go a miss.

V –Vigilant. There will always be people in this world who don’t want to see you succeed, be vigilant of those people and stay well clear. Don’t let those people come too close because life is hard enough without those kind of people surrounding you.

W – Work hard. I don’t want to sound like a nagging parent, but when you’re in school, yes enjoy yourself, yes mess around a little, but at the end of it all knuckle down and focus. The results you get in school will be carried with you for the rest of your life. And in today’s day and age, exam results are becoming more important if you plan to make something out of yourself.

X –Xenodochial. A strange word, however it means to be kind to strangers. If you see a little old lady struggling with her shopping bag, ask her if she’d like any help. If you see someone drop something, pick it up and give it back to them or something simple like if someone holds a door open for you smile and say thank you. It doesn’t take a lot to be kind, but you could make someone’s day better, simply by being a nice person.

Y –Your actions now shape your life forever. Make wise choices and don’t be led astray, the things you do and say now could change your future forever, good or bad. Make a better future for yourself by making the right choices now.

Z – Zero second chances. You only get one chance at life, don’t waste it. Enjoy it and never take your life for granted. Being a teenager is an enjoyable part of anyone’s life, it might not seem like it now, but if you don’t live it to the full whilst you can, it’ll be too late and you’ll regret wasting the best days off your life.

 I would like to thank my boyfriend Ash for helping me think of some of these ideas. Some of these ideas are not only aimed at teenagers, probably anyone can relate to them. I really hope one or more of these ideas help you in some way because life is not easy but it definitely is worth it when you succeed and enjoy yourself. 

Thank you for reading!

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