Life Update

life update

Hey guys!

I think I am possibly the worst blogger ever! No post in 3 months ahhhh! But I am back and ready to start writing again. Back in December I was rushed into hospital and I was diagnosed with meningitis, sepsis, dangerously low blood pressure and severe dehydration and the midwife told me I was lucky to be alive as my blood pressure had dropped so much that my body started to stop functioning and my organs had stopped working, so with all of that, a month of being severely ill and a week of being in hospital, I decided I wanted to take some time out to focus on myself. I took some time working on getting my health back, enjoying more family time, seeing my friends more and just enjoying my life because it really made me realise just how short life is and how you never really know what is around the corner so you need to enjoy yourself and live life to the full.

So in the last 3 months of being less active online a lot has happened. Firstly I decided to go to university, then decided I wasn’t sure and now I’m stuck with what to do. Secondly I completed dry January successfully! I wasn’t advised to, but I decided I would drink less and work on being healthier after being in hospital as I lost over a stone in the 3 weeks I was ill and I didn’t want to be unhealthy so decided to get myself sorted. And thirdly, most importantly, I got myself a boyfriend. 

Ashley Day, where do I start? When I was ill and I needed people around me, he had my back and cared more than most. We made things official on the 30th of December and I can honestly say I’m the happiest I have ever been. I never really understood people who said you’d ‘just know’ when you find ‘the one’ but now I really understand it because now I’ve found the person I want to spend my life with the feelings are a million times different to anything I’ve felt in the past. He’s not only my boyfriend but he’s also my best friend too and I am honestly so in love it’s mad.

I won’t ramble on about that though, I just wanted to post a quick update. Next week I am going to the Cheltenham Festival, which for those who don’t know is one of the biggest horse racing events in this country, I have tickets for two of the four days so I will be posting about those next week and my experience of the Cheltenham Festival for the first time. Over the next few days I will also be making a post of my top tips for the festival. I’ve bet on the Gold Cup winner the past 3 years so I’m on a roll, I can’t pick a winner every single time but the festival is the most exciting time of the year for any horse racing fan so I will be posting multiple posts over the next few days so keep your eyes out for them.

I also worked with Trentham Monkey Forest last weekend so I will have a post up about my experience with them, I am also working with Clue HQ Birmingham this weekend and West Midlands Safari Park in the next few weeks so I have a lot of exciting posts to come! Ash and I have also booked our first holiday together to Puerto Rico, Gran Canaria in June so I will be posting about that also. If you haven’t already click the social media tab at the top of the page and follow my social media accounts so you can keep up to date with all of the exciting things I have planned.

I am keeping it short and sweet, but I will be working harder to start writing more now I have the feeling of writing back! 










My Miscarriage Story – Readers Discretion

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Hey guys!

If you have been reading my blog for a while, you’ll know I am quite open with events that happen in my life which may help others. I talk a lot about things I have been through or am going through in the hopes that somebody who reads the post may find comfort or advice in there and today is no different. Some people may find this upsetting so please only read if you think you can.

As you can see from the title, I had a miscarriage. On the 27th of August 2017 I got took into hospital where I lost a baby at 3 months. I didn’t find out I was pregnant until it was almost too late. I hadn’t really shown any major signs of pregnancy. Looking back there were some signs but I just didn’t pick up on them. For example, I had gained weight, but I thought it was because I was eating a lot of junk food, going out for meals a lot and constantly travelling the country for shows so I had no choice but to eat a lot of take outs. I also threw up after eating a Chinese which I have never done before. I also hadn’t had a period, but I thought this was down to the fact I had continued to take the pill so I didn’t have a period whilst in Canada.

So when I got home from Canada and I still hadn’t had my due period I decided I needed to do a test and find out. With 1 inconclusive test and 1 positive test I needed to see the Doctor and get an answer from them, so I booked it for the first available date which was Tuesday the 29th of September, which in the end turned out to be too late.

On Sunday 27th of August, nearly two weeks after landing home from Canada, I woke up in agonising pain. I couldn’t breath, my stomach felt like someone was repeatedly stabbing me and twisting the knife for good measure and I felt weak. My stomach pain wasn’t a period pain, it was so much more intense and powerful and horrible and I knew something wasn’t right. So I was taken to a walk in centre to see a doctor who did 2 tests, both inconclusive. After doing a thorough examination he said he believed it could be two things, a miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy, both of which petrified me.

He advised me to see someone at the hospital immediately so he contacted them and had me fast tracked to the Surgical Assessment Unit, a ward where patients go to speak with a Doctor or Surgeon and discuss the next steps. I had a bunch of different tests done, urine, blood, blood pressure, blood sugar. Anything you can imagine I had tested. At this point I was bleeding very heavily and I was in the worst pain I ever could have felt. After spending all day in the hospital taking Morphine to control the pain, the surgeon and doctor said they would like me to stay in overnight and be reassessed early hours the next day and hopefully find out the exact reason for the extreme pain, this caused my anxiety to freak out and I panicked and couldn’t do it. Against Doctor’s orders I decided to discharge myself. At this point I had already looked into it and I was 99% certain I knew I had had a miscarriage and my nurse also thought that too and told me to go home and rest and sleep and drink plenty of water and come back Wednesday for an ultrasound scan.

So when Wednesday came around I went to the hospital and I had an internal and external ultrasound scan. Both of which showed no signs of a heartbeat. The surgeon recalled me to the Surgical Assessment Unit where he broke the news along with a nurse that I had in fact miscarried at just over 3 months pregnant. In that moment I felt completely broken. 3 months pregnant and I didn’t even know for sure that I was.

Immediately I felt guilty. I felt like it was all my fault. In those 3 months I had got a stomach tattoo, I had drank alcohol, I had been to Canada jumping in the lakes, I hadn’t been eating properly as I felt sick all of the time. I felt like it was all my fault and nothing anyone was saying to me was changing my mind about that. At that moment in time, deep down I knew it was all my fault.

I was told that I needed to go home, I needed to rest, I needed to try and start eating again. I was told I could potentially bleed some more so I needed to take care of myself. I was of course devastated, I was heartbroken and I had an overwhelming feeling of guilt. I had to experience all of it on my own because the babies father didn’t even bother to show up and for me that was the most heartbreaking moment of my life so how could he not have cared?

Looking back, I learnt a lot about myself those few days. It was only a few weeks ago so it is still very very painful, however I learnt that I am stronger than I ever imagined I could have been. I went through one of the most heartbreaking things a woman could go through and I did it on my own. Not on my own completely, I had my family and friends supporting me, but on my own in a sense that it takes two people to make a baby, it only took one to lose it and deal with it. I also learnt that some people aren’t who they say they are. People will always say ‘I’m always here for you’ but when it comes down to it it’s actually very few people who stick to their word and do help you and have your back. And I think the most important thing is that I learnt that miscarriage is not your fault. You’ll feel guilty, you feel like it’s all your fault and you could’ve and should’ve done things differently, but the reality is if a miscarriage is going to happen it will happen regardless of what you do to try and prevent it. If your body doesn’t feel like it can continue the pregnancy then it won’t allow it to continue.

I’ve always believed that whatever is meant to be will be, I lost this baby because it wasn’t meant to be, I was meant to experience it, learn from it and grow from it. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through but I’m starting to grow from it slowly but surely. Last night I watched a British Soap Opera called Eastenders and the quote below was said… for me it hurt but it’s true. Just because I didn’t give birth to the baby, doesn’t mean I’ll forget about it. He/she will always be in my heart and I’ll never forget. I would also like to take a moment to thank the producers, writers, crew and cast of Eastenders for showing so much respect throughout the miscarriage scenes. It was a hard watch, but it was something that has hopefully helped millions of people to understand miscarriage a little bit more.


A miscarriage is not easy and I would not wish it upon my worst enemy. It’s a scary and lonely place to be. You can be surrounded by people but in that moment you feel alone and scared because you’ve lost your baby, your body lost the baby. You’ll question every little thing you’ve done, wondering if it triggered it off or if you could have done something differently to stop it from happening. But in reality, a miscarriage is a natural thing, something that is controlled by your body believing you couldn’t carry a baby full term and you may never understand the reason why, but there is always a reason.

I never imagined I would get pregnant at 20 years old. I never imagined I’d lose a baby at 3 months old. I never imagined I would have to go through it without the babies dad by my side. But I did and I have and I’m a stronger person for it. Miscarriage is never easy, this is my second one at the age of 20. The first I lost at 3/4 weeks, the second I lost at just over 3 months and it doesn’t get any easier each time it happens. You will still remember the pain, the heartache, you’ll remember around the time he or she should’ve been born, you’ll remember it all. But in time you’ll start to heal and you’ll realise it wasn’t meant to be and they are safer where they are looking down on you.

I spoke with the doctor, nurses and surgeon whilst in hospital and I voiced my concern about this being the second time and thinking maybe I can’t have kids, maybe my body won’t allow me to. But luckily they said that there is no indication that they can see that I am unable to carry a healthy baby full term so at some point in my future I will be able to have children, hopefully when the time is right my body will allow that to happen.

This post was hard to write, it was something I was debating about writing or not, especially this soon. But I decided I would to help the process of healing and grieving and learning to move forward. I have always been open about the things I go through because I believe the more we talk about situations like this the better. Because keeping it inside will not help me through the healing process and it won’t help anyone experiencing it thinking they’re alone. You are not alone no matter how much you think you are.

I now have to go through a process of seeing a councillor now due to me having depression and then losing a baby and the health services wanting to make sure I can cope with it all. At first I couldn’t cope. At first I hated myself and I didn’t want to live anymore. But now I’ve came to terms with the fact it wasn’t supposed to be and with the help and support of my family and friends, especially my mom and my best friend Harley I am slowly learning to move forward. I know it won’t be easy, but if I have learnt one thing it is that life is so precious and you need to grasp every opportunity with both hands. Some people don’t get the chance to live their life, enjoy their life, but if you have that chance then do not throw it away.

I really hope that I can help just one person by writing this to understand they’re not alone. I personally have a great support network around me and therefore I’ve stayed strong. I have said it time and time again, I am always open to listen to anyone experiencing something tough. Go to the social media tab above where all of my information is kept, which now includes a personal email address where you can email me regarding anything and everything and I will listen and be there just so you know you’re not alone.

Thank you for reading.


Mental Health Awareness Month


Hey guys!

Today I am writing about all about mental health. If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know that last year I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety after going through some pretty vile things, which to this day I don’t wish to talk about because I wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy. When I first met my councillor and I told her everything, she even said to me out of every person she has ever seen, my story was probably one of the worst, which was a shock to me if I’m honest because I had tried to take it in my step but obviously some people just break.

This month I have been discharged by my councillor and she is in discussion with my doctor regards to me being taken off my anxiety tablets and anti depressants so overall I am towards the end of my mental health journey for now. I have always been very open about my diagnoses because I believe there is a stigma attached to mental health and that shouldn’t be the case. Thousands and millions of people all around the world, every single day are diagnosed with a mental illness but they will never tell anyone because they’re worried about being judged or being categorised by people and to me that isn’t fair. 

Mental illness is a huge thing, it always has been and probably always will be so why are people so afraid to talk about it? There shouldn’t be a stigma attached to mental illness. If someone has a physical illness such as a throat infection they aren’t judged so why is someone who has a mental illness such as depression judged? I honestly think as a society we need to be more understanding and compassionate towards those with a mental illness and to everybody in general. When someone is diagnosed with a mental illness, it is not only that person who is effected. The friends and family and support network around that person also feel it, it can put a strain on relationships and friendships. I know for me personally, when I was at the peak of my illnesses I pushed people away, no matter what they did or how much they tried to be there for me I was having none of it, I just wanted to be on my own all of the time and I ended up secluding myself so then I was even more depressed than I was in the first place.

My anxiety is still bad at the moment, not half as bad as it was, but I still flinch if a male gets too close or moves quickly or moves their hands towards me, I feel like that will probably be with me for the rest of my life and that is something I just have to deal with. And some days I will wake up and have a bad day, feel down, overthink the past, wonder why what happened, happened, but I don’t get myself worked up over it like I used to. Sometimes things happen in life and you will never ever know why and that’s fine, don’t dwell on it because it’ll eat you up alive like it did me.

As it is Mental Illness Awareness Month I thought I would write this post because I truly do believe that more awareness needs to be raised. Whether you’re homeless on the streets, middle class, upper class or a billionaire celebrity, mental illness can hit anyone. If you ever feel like you aren’t yourself, whether you’re lethargic, not just tired, but physically and mentally unable to do things without feeling rubbish, if you have no motivation to do something you love, if you can’t sleep or you oversleep all the time, if you don’t feel like your smiles or laughter is genuine, if you can’t walk the street without feeling paranoid someone is going to hurt you, honestly anything at all that is out of the ordinary for you speak to someone. It could be nothing or it could be something. Don’t leave it until it’s too late. 

In January this year I tried to commit suicide, something I haven’t ever spoken about online. But at the time everything had went wrong, I felt like I had nowhere to turn, everything had finally hit me and dragged me to my lowest. In the hospital I was told 2 more tablets and I would’ve died, which looking back was scary as hell. Seeing my family sit around me, heartbroken is what hit me the most. Why was I doing this to them? Yes I would be out of the pain I was in, but wouldn’t I just be leaving that pain and more with them? That wasn’t fair on any of them. So I vowed to my parents and my brothers I was finally going to sort myself out. I was going to walk away from a toxic relationship, I was going to move back home with my family and I was going to focus on myself for once and stop trying to help everyone else.

And now 4 months later I am in a relationship with someone who has taught me to love myself again, someone who loved me when I couldn’t even love myself. Someone who has walked back into my life and showed me that whatever is meant to be will always find a way back. It’s took 4 years for Reiss to walk back into my life after us both going our separate ways after talking for months. Now he’s back in my life and he’s helped me through the roughest period of my life without even knowing it. I am living at home with my parents and brothers, I have my little Puggle Daisy who is by my side every single day keeping me busy. I have a group of friends who have my back and look out for me when I need them and I am finally back to the old me. The me before everything happened. 

I think all I want people to take from this post is that yes life can be horrible, it can drag you down and keep dragging you down until you hit rock bottom, but no matter what happens there is always a way out. Don’t give up because if you hit rock bottom you can only work your way up now. I didn’t see a way out, I’ll be honest, I thought everything would be better for me and for everyone else if I wasn’t here. But if that suicide attempt wasn’t an attempt and it was a success my family would still be grieving, I’d never have reconnected with the love of my life and I wouldn’t be doing what I love to do, blog an write and work with incredible brands. I never ever imagined 4 months ago I could ever be happy again, but I am and I truly believe that anybody going through something tough can come out the other side, I really really do. 

There is so much help out there if you feel like you can’t cope with something, so use it. Two of the charities I couldn’t praise enough are Mind and Sane. If you don’t want to talk to them and you feel like you could harm yourself contact your doctor who can put you in touch with a mental health crisis team, they will visit you and help you through the crisis period. If it is out of hours for your doctor go to your local hospital, most hospitals now have a mental health team on 24 hour call so whatever happens there is always someone you can turn to. Don’t keep it to yourself, don’t think it’ll just pass, don’t think you’re on your own. Open up, talk and stop thinking that people will judge you. Anyone who judges you is not a true friend remember that. A true friend will help you and support you and be by your side until you overcome what you’re going through.

I really hope this post helps at least one of you. As I have always said, my messages are always open if you want to discuss anything or ask any questions.


A Letter To My Younger Self

Hey Lovelies! 

Welcome to my new post, today I am going to write a letter to my younger self, I really hope you enjoy it.

Dear Zoe,

Life isn’t like a fairy tale, you’ll be heartbroken at some point, you will learn not to trust many people and you will probably be judged by many but don’t worry about any of that because life is too short. Don’t let people upset you and get you down, as long as you’re happy and as long as you’re making your parents proud, who cares what anyone else thinks? You have nothing to prove to anyone, only yourself.

If you want to spend all of your money on concerts, that is totally okay. You’re not spoilt, you work extremely hard and deserve all of the treats you give yourself. Don’t listen to those who are jealous of you. 

Trusting people is hard, I know. Believing what people tell you is hard too. If someone breaks your heart, don’t dwell on it. Smile, hold your head up high and realise it is their loss, not yours. Don’t let your past ruin your future. That man you love? Yeah he loves you too, let him in, trust him and believe him when he says those three words, he isn’t your ex, he won’t hurt you. And if he does? Hold your head up princess, that tiara is falling. 

You know what? You can argue with your parents as much as you like, at the end of the day they brought you into this world, they know what is best for you. If they tell you someone is bad news? Listen to them, because parents can always tell a bad egg before you can. If they tell you you can’t go out? Listen to them, they know what people are like. It isn’t you they don’t trust, it is other people and they are well within their rights to think that. It is a horrible world we live in so listen to them, they really do know best.

Your brothers? Yeah they will annoy you, sometimes you will hate them. But after everything, guess who will always have your back? Them. They will not let anyone hurt you, do the same for them. Look out for each other, support each other and never let each other down. Being close to your siblings is rare, don’t look back in 50 years time and regret not spending more time together.

Alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and sex really isn’t all that. Trust me, you don’t need to sneak about at 13 years old to do all the things your parents tell you not to. People will think they’re clever taking drugs at a young age, but don’t do something stupid, don’t regret being young by doing something that could effect you in the future. Smoking is a dirty habit, don’t get into it. Alcohol? Yeah everybody drinks it, but don’t be stupid and get drunk so young, waking up and not remembering what happened. And sex? Yes it is a part of life that most experience, but why rush? 

Never feel pressured to do something you don’t feel you are ready for just because your friends are doing it. Focus in school and get good grades because in today’s society, grades are important to make it in almost any career. You won’t know what you want to do with your life when you’re young, you may think you do but that will change so many times before you become an adult so don’t focus all of your efforts into one thing because who knows what you will end up doing.

School is boring yes, but they are the best days of your life so don’t wish them away, enjoy every single second because trust me, once you start working you will regret ever wishing those days away.

All of those ‘friends’ you make in school? You will probably keep in touch with just a handful so be careful who you trust and who you let into your life because not everybody has your best interests in mind. Keep a couple friends who will always have your back and do not let them go. They’re rare and very precious.

If you have a crush on a singer, do not let anyone take that away from you because it could allow you to meet so many new friends and allow you to make so many new memories. Do not publish your life on social media. If you and your parents argue? Sort it out, rant to a friends, go for a walk, don’t publish online how much you hate them, because you don’t, you never will, you’re just angry.

Life is short, someone you argue with today could be gone tomorrow, don’t take that chance. Don’t be stubborn, apologise, hug it out and move on. 

You’re stronger than you think you are, you can overcome anything if you put your mind to it. The main thing is be happy. Do what you want to do, don’t let others bring you down. You’ll have bad days, so will those around you, but don’t let it turn into bad weeks or months or years. If somebody is having a bad day and they take it out on you that’s fine, shake it off and move on because everybody has bad days and you will probably take yours out on somebody else too.

A small note to end on… It doesn’t take a lot to smile at someone, who knows you could even make their day. Smile more, laugh more and enjoy your life because the last thing you want to do is regret it looking back.

Be happy, treat yourself and do what you love to do.

All the best.



Today was a different post for sure but I feel like at 20 years old I’ve learnt quite a lot and I continue to learn every single day of my life but if I could tell my younger self anything it is in this letter. I don’t regret my past because I learnt from it and grew from it and I’m finding out a lot about myself with every mistake I make, but I like the thought of learning and being able to pass that on to younger people so this is what I would personally pass on. I hope you’ve enjoyed this post and I will see you in my next post.

Review: The Full Monty Theatre Show

Hey Lovelies!

Today’s post is a review of The Full Monty theatre show. If you didn’t know the show is currently on tour playing shows all across the UK and this afternoon I was lucky enough to go and see the matinee show. I’ve never been to a matinee show but I always assumed not as much effort went into them however I was totally wrong. I was second row from the front in the stalls and honestly I had the best couple of hours. 

The show obviously has a lot of humour in it, which was expected but beneath all of that it targets some sensitive issues that happen to people every single day. Such as body image, homosexuality, unemployment, depression, sexual equality and court proceedings where a child is involved. It includes a lot of heartfelt sensitive issues and they are included in a careful way where nobody can be offended but you might be able to relate to what they are going through.

I think the creators, writers, producers and everybody involved did an incredible job. They included the light hearted parts and humorous parts but they also included those scenes where the sensitive issues are brought up. I think, for me, the best scene was of course the scene in the ‘job club’ where the music is playing and they start dancing in the queue. I think if that scene wasn’t included it just wouldn’t be the same. I also want to say fair play to all of the actors for stripping right down to the bare bottom. I honestly think the whole performance was incredible and I was totally wrong about the fact that matinee shows being different, they are just as good as evening shows! 

If you get the chance to see the show then I really do recommend you do. If you follow me and have been you will know I go to a lot of shows but this has to be one of the best ones. I have always said The Bodyguard is the best show I’ve seen at the theatre but this was definitely very close if not slightly better. 

All of the performers were incredible but my stand out performers were of course Gary Lucy and Chris Fountain. I’ve always had a soft spot for them, Gary since Footballers Wives and Chris since Hollyoaks so being able to see them both on stage was amazing. I have loved the performance and I think everybody should see it if you get the chance!

I hope you’ve enjoyed this review and I will see you in my next post!

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My A-Z Guide of Being a Teenager


Hey Lovelies!

Being a teenager is pretty tricky, whether you’re 13 and only just settling into high school, 16 and leaving high school or 19, like myself, working full time or in university. However old you are and no matter what you’re doing, being a teenager is pretty tough. So here is my A-Z guided of how to survive your teenage years.

A – Always be yourself. I know it’s pretty cliche but never try to be someone else. You might not be the most popular person, but never change who you are for someone else. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are then that’s their loss.

B – Be ready for the unexpected. Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs some of which are unexpected, but be ready for them. Know that whatever happens you can bounce back one way or another.

C – Caring. Always be caring. Whether it’s towards your family, your friends or even a stranger, being a caring person costs nothing. If you see someone crying in school, ask them if they need any help, if your mom seems down, ask her if she needs to talk. 

D – Driven and determined. Stay driven always. Make yourself a goal and stick to it. Don’t give up, no matter how hard it may seem to reach, one day you’ll reach your goal because you were driven and determined to get there.

E –Enjoy every moment. Life is way too short to not enjoy it. It might not seem like it now because when my parents said it to me I laughed too, but your school years are the best years of your life. Spending every day with your friends, not worrying about paying bills and the money ins and outs, no full time work to contend with and honestly if I could, I’d love to live my school years again because they’re so much easier than now.

F –Friendships. Making friendships is a key part in anyone’s life. Remember those friends you make now are the group you’re associated with. If they misbehave you could be tarnished with the same brush and be looked down upon all because you got into a bad group. Yes, be friends with those people you like but also remember, they won’t be the people writing your references from school, they won’t be the ones paying you when you find a job. Don’t be a teachers pet, but remember teachers will see who you’re with and what you get up to, so choose a good bunch of friends who you can get on well with and have a laugh with but know where the limits are. If you choose a good group of friends, you could find yourself with friends for life.

G – Get prepared. Your teenage years are fun and you should enjoy them, however sometimes you need to prepare yourself for certain obstacles and situations. I know it’s boring, but revise for your exams, once you pass them and leave education whether it be at school, college or university level you probably won’t waste your time again on revision, but being prepared for an exam is important, don’t go in there knowing nothing, you’re not letting anyone down apart from yourself.

H – Honesty. Being honest is a key personality trait that people look for. Don’t lie to people, tell them the truth no matter what the consequence may be. Don’t tell a lie then have it on your conscience, this will probably lead to you stressing out and even not sleeping if the lie leads to other things regarding those involved. 

I – Inspire others. Inspire younger people who look up to you to enjoy themselves and succeed in life. Don’t forget somewhere in this world someone looks up to you, whether it be a sibling, a distant relative or even people in school in years below you, set a good example and strive to succeed. If you fail, get back up and try again.

J – Join in and participate. You might not like sport or be very energetic, but why not join a sports club or a dance club or even a revision class? You might meet new friends, have time out of the house and who knows, you might even enjoy it!

K – Know your worth and don’t let your standards drop. You’re worth so much more than some people will try and tell you. Know your worth and don’t let anyone treat you worse than what you deserve. You’ve been put on this planet for a purpose, know your worth, know your purpose and don’t let your standards slip, not even slightly.

L –Loyalty. Be loyal. Be loyal to your friends, your family and those important to you. The person you are now is the person people will judge you by in the future. Loyalty is a key trait that many look for including future universities and employers.

M – Make memories. Life is all about memories. Don’t waste time sitting alone, go out, make friends, enjoy yourself and don’t waste any time doing nothing. You’re young, you have energy so go out and use it before you’re in a full time job and have no time to actually do the things you want to do.

N – Never give up. Another cliche one, however it’s important to remember. Things will be hard, things will stress you out and make you want to quit, however, keep going. Be positive and persevere because sooner or later you’ll succeed and it’ll feel even sweeter knowing you were challenged but never gave up. 

O – Own up to your mistakes. If you make a mistake, own up to it. Don’t lie or try and blame it on someone else. You’ll gain a lot more respect from people if you can realise you’ve made a mistake and own up to it rather than lying to get yourself out of it. Everybody makes mistakes, we’re all human and nobody will expect you not to, so own up to it, make it right if you can and move on.

P – Plan ahead. In one respect you want to enjoy the moment you’re in, however sometimes you need to think ahead. No you probably won’t know what you want to do in 20 years time, but have some sort of idea so you can work towards it. Make a plan and even if you don’t stick to it at least you can gain experience. For example, if you plan to go to university, write down your achievements as and when they happen, so when it comes to your application you have it all there, even if you choose not to apply, at least you have your achievements for a CV for a job.

Q – Question things. Don’t sit in class not understanding something without asking questions, don’t be afraid of looking dumb, ask the questions you need to ask. The chances are if you don’t understand something then at least one other person in your class is probably in the same position.

R – Remain hopeful. Things will be tough, I won’t say they won’t, but smile and remain hopeful. One day things will work out exactly how they’re supposed to, just wait for it.

S – Say what you feel. I don’t mean tell your teachers you hate them at all, I mean if you like someone, tell them, yes they might not feel the same way, but at the same time they might and if you don’t tell them how you feel, they might never say how they feel and you could miss an opportunity to be happy.

T – Talking. I know this sounds like a silly idea, but a lot of teenagers shut themselves off from the outside world, don’t do that. Talk to your friends whenever you can. Leave your bedroom, go downstairs and talk to your family. Don’t lock yourself away, life is too short and by the time you realise that, it could be too late.

U – Understanding. If your parents say they can’t give you money to go shopping this week, be understanding. Realise that they work hard for their money but on payday probably 50% or more will have already been spent on bills to keep a roof over your head, heat in the house, running water and electricity to keep your phone charged. They love you but sometimes a little bit of understanding doesn’t go a miss.

V –Vigilant. There will always be people in this world who don’t want to see you succeed, be vigilant of those people and stay well clear. Don’t let those people come too close because life is hard enough without those kind of people surrounding you.

W – Work hard. I don’t want to sound like a nagging parent, but when you’re in school, yes enjoy yourself, yes mess around a little, but at the end of it all knuckle down and focus. The results you get in school will be carried with you for the rest of your life. And in today’s day and age, exam results are becoming more important if you plan to make something out of yourself.

X –Xenodochial. A strange word, however it means to be kind to strangers. If you see a little old lady struggling with her shopping bag, ask her if she’d like any help. If you see someone drop something, pick it up and give it back to them or something simple like if someone holds a door open for you smile and say thank you. It doesn’t take a lot to be kind, but you could make someone’s day better, simply by being a nice person.

Y –Your actions now shape your life forever. Make wise choices and don’t be led astray, the things you do and say now could change your future forever, good or bad. Make a better future for yourself by making the right choices now.

Z – Zero second chances. You only get one chance at life, don’t waste it. Enjoy it and never take your life for granted. Being a teenager is an enjoyable part of anyone’s life, it might not seem like it now, but if you don’t live it to the full whilst you can, it’ll be too late and you’ll regret wasting the best days off your life.

 I would like to thank my boyfriend Ash for helping me think of some of these ideas. Some of these ideas are not only aimed at teenagers, probably anyone can relate to them. I really hope one or more of these ideas help you in some way because life is not easy but it definitely is worth it when you succeed and enjoy yourself. 

Thank you for reading!