Today’s post, you could say, is a little bit more serious than all of the other posts I have uploaded. Today I want to talk about 3 things: social media and the effects it has on people, body image and what is expected of us and teenage life as a whole. After this year I will no longer be a teenager so I thought there is no better time to talk about some of the things I have been through and witnessed as a teenager as now.
Firstly I want to talk about social media. Social media plays a massive part in nearly everybody’s lives in today’s society, whether you’re young or old, I think nearly everybody has a Facebook page or a Twitter page somewhere. For me there is a lot of positives of social media, however there are also a lot of negatives too.
A positive is that you can speak to people who you would normally never have chance to. I met my best friend through twitter from both of us supporting Justin Bieber and 4 years down the line and many concerts later we are still the best of friends.
Another positive is that people have created careers out of social media. Whether it is through sponsored posts, partnerships, Instagram modelling, people have been able to set up their own, you could say, business and that’s incredible in itself, a massive round of applause to those people because they work their butts off daily to get to a position where they are earning enough money to live on.
A third positive is that you can reconnect with people from your past. I lost contact with quite a few people from my primary school when we left as none of us back then had phones and had no way to stay in touch, so the fact I have been able to reconnect with so many of them through Facebook is something I am incredible grateful for.
You can also keep in touch with family and friends from other countries. Having family in Canada, it is extremely hard to find a perfect time to call them, however through social media, you can contact them at any point and they can respond at any time without the worry of it costing you a lot of money.
A final positive is that you can easily keep up to date with your favourite celebrities, programmes and films which is good for people of all ages. Whether you’re a teenage ‘fangirl’ or you simply love Eastenders, social media is a great way to interact with people who have similar interests and to feel like you’re more involved.
I’m sure there are many more positives too, but they’re my top 5 personally.
Now onto some negatives. Firstly, there is a lot of cyber bullying. Whether it is body shaming, name calling or just horrible behavior, cyber bullying is a massive thing and some cases end up ridiculously bad. People will do anything to hurt people they don’t know through social media and I just don’t agree with it in any way, shape or form.
Another negative is that expectations are higher, or at least seem to be. Everywhere you turn on social media someone is posting an insanely hot selfie and suddenly your heart will sink. People expect girls and boys to look a certain way because Instagram models do or because celebrities too. As it is everywhere now and not just in magazines, the expectations seem to be even higher now.
Another negative for me is that it is so easy to lose your confidence via social media. For example, if you post a selfie and you think you look really nice, it only takes one online troll or stranger or sometimes even someone you know to say you look horrible and suddenly your confidence is shattered. Because social media and selfies are so easily accessible online, people are more inclined to comment on social media rather than in person, which is not nice at all.
A fourth negative is that it is far too easy to set up a fake profile and bully someone anonymously. I disagree with bullying altogether but for someone to do it without a name to their face, that to me is purely just disgusting.
A final negative is that people use social media to be someone that they’re not to impress people they probably don’t even know. Social media, specially Instagram is a place where I find people upload either other peoples photos or photos offline pretending they’re rich or they have expensive things and just pretending to be someone that they’re not and to me I just don’t understand it. Be you, don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to impress people you don’t even know.
For me I think social media is a good thing, if it is used correctly. If it is used to troll people, to bully people or just to be rude to people then that’s something I am strongly passionate about because it is just vile for someone to set out to ruin someones day over social media, whether it be anonymous or with your name. Bullying is bullying either way and it needs to be stopped. I use my social media daily and daily I see it used wrongly and personally I don’t understand it. I was always taught to be myself and to be nice, if I can’t be nice don’t say anything at all and I think some people need to learn that lesson in life.
The second serious subject I would like to talk about is body image, I won’t say just females because more recently I’ve realised males have it just as bad. Both females and males are expected to look a certain way and to me that’s wrong. Some people carry a little more weight than others, some people don’t have boobs and a butt, some people don’t have six packs, that’s called reality and people should never be ashamed of what they look like.
I find nothing worse than when you already have an insecurity whether it be your nose or your stomach or anything and then someone picks at you for it, to me that’s the worse sort of insult. I just feel like people try to hard to live up to these body image standards so they aren’t body shamed and that isn’t how you should be living your life.
I’m not saying don’t go the gym and just put on lots of weight, all I’m saying is don’t be ashamed of who you are and what you look like because if we all looked ‘perfect’ then it would be a pretty boring world. Be happy in your skin, be confident in your skin and don’t let anyone put you down for anything.
We can’t change the way we look, even if you went and got plastic surgery then someone would say it’s fake anyway, so why go out of your way to impress people? Be confident in your skin. I was never confident in my skin, but Jayde Pierce was the person who made me realise you need to be happy and confident and I am a billion percent grateful to her for Snapchat rants and if you don’t know who she is, follow her on Snapchat (jaydepierce) and just learn from her because she talks a lot of sense.
The last part of today’s post is about teenage life as a whole. To me I have loved my teenage years and I wouldn’t change them for the world. A lot has happened, both good and bad but I have learnt so much to take into my adult life. My parents always told me that my school days would be the best of my life and looking back they definitely were. I miss not having any worries about money or future plans or anything at all, if I could go back I definitely would. I also wanted to say that leaving in year 11 is one of the best things to happen, enjoy the last couple of days, enjoy being surrounded by all of your friends for 6 hours a day and definitely enjoy your prom because once it is all over and you have bills to pay and a future to prepare for, you’ll really wish you could have those days back.
The best thing you can do is enjoy yourself, don’t try to grow up too quick because I wished away my teenage years and now they’re coming to an end I would do anything to go back and be able to relive them.
I really hope you enjoyed a more serious side to my blog, I wanted to switch it up and write about a couple of things I feel like everybody can relate to and have an opinion on.
Let me know what you thought and I will see you all over the weekend on my next post!
PS: Also thank you to all of my new followers this week, I really appreciate all of the support!